We tend to expect the people around us and the systems that are in place in our lives (which we must follow) to change to our taste and liking. However, change can only take place when we ourselves change. When this happens the people in our lives and the world around us also catapults into change.
You can start a new trend!
Most times we feel and believe that people do things to us.
- “He treated me this way. How unfair!”
- “She misunderstood me. I feel broken.”
- “They picked on me. I am being singled out.”
You probably ask yourself: “Why me? I give so much, I am not valued or cared for.”
Asking “Why me?” and being upset does not fix anything. It only causes you to regresses into a pit of anger, sadness, and even despair. Yet, if you decide to change your ways, you will quickly develop hope.
In order to change you need to create a plan of action.
The world around us reacts to us as we react to it. It also behaves according to our believe systems and expectations.
Let me give you some examples:
- “Nothing works for me.”
- “Nothing comes easy to me.”
- “I am not good enough.”
- “I can’t achieve much.”
We go through life as though good things cannot happen to us. Sometimes, we hang on to the wrong people, in unhealthy relationships, because of how low we value ourselves.
Change will come to you as you redefine your self-value.
According to that value, you will create a new set of boundaries that cannot be crossed. You will develop healthier self-talk, and better communication skills. You will experience more assertiveness and confidence. Your healthier new-found self-value will be reflected on the inside and on the outside.
As people in your life see your manifested change, they will slowly adjust to it and treat you accordingly. Know that when you just begin to work on yourself most likely people might not accept it. Other people might not notice it right away. At first they might react negatively toward your new behavior, since they do not understand what is happening. They are used to the old you. Do not worry. As you consistently continue to behave with your new acquired behavior, everyone around you will adjust and embrace that change.
Soon enough you will see that the mechanics of communication with people changes too. You will be treated differently and you might encourage others to want to find inner change as well.
You are now on your way to a better quality of life.
With much love,
Alicia Yombalakian
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