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Become your best you!

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“You can be your very best you when you are your true you”

We have enough practice at being who we are. Yet, in many instances we tend to try to be someone we aren’t in order to meet other people’s expectations of us and be accepted.

We are who we are because we were created with a plan and a purpose (each person has his or her own purpose) to accomplish in this lifetime.

Therefore, trying to be someone you are not is not going to prosper you or anyone else.  It will only elongate the time that will take you to get where you are going.

Where are you going? You are on your way to Jeremiah 29:11   ( For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.)

God says that He will prosper you as your soul prospers.  This is why I said that you are on your way to Jeremiah 29:11.  It is because you are prospering inside and out as you walk your very personal walk which God has planned for you before the world was made.

God made you in a perfect mold and continues to mold you as a potter molds the pottery he is creating. He takes every opportunity to enhance you into you a better you. Regardless of what you are facing. If you work with God you will prosper.

The best way to be molded into your very best you is by having a real relationship with a real God. What do I mean by this? I mean to come to God with every situation and need with your true feelings, your most honest you. Sometimes, you might come to God angry and tell Him how you really feel, sometimes you will come in weakness, in laziness, in whatever feeling you are at the time.

When you are raw honest with yourself and with your Maker, you are more open to receive the answer, the solution or even the correction.

Also, by studying, meditating and acknowledging the new creation you are in Christ, you will find balance and growth.

With much love,

Alicia Yombalakian

A Rap Song For The Ages

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Once upon a time there was a God, a mighty God of love that created all created. Yes! He and his only begotten son created all that has been created. He created men and woman a companionship for him unto himself.  He had blessed them will all blessings in the perfect holiness that can only remain in his presence.

They conversed and walked together in heaven.

God also created Lucifer the most beautiful and radiant angel of light! Awesome in beauty and strength, yet, this being was the first one to eat a bad seed and brought out malice instead of light.

Adam and Eve were their names.  The name every animal and plants in the Kingdom and had dominion over all of them given to them by God. Only one thing wasn’t theirs to touch or eat “The Tree of Life” (The tree of good an evil).

The devil masked as a snake climbing a tree close by Eve told her: Go eat of it.  Eat of what? said Eve.  That tree the tree of life he said. We are not supposed to eat of that tree Eve said. The liar told Eve: “God does not want you to eat of that tree so that you will not know all that He knows”.

Oh poor Eve trusted the wrong thing and ate. Poor Adam also trusted the wrong thing and without being the head, without thinking he bit the fruit.

Yes! You and I are here now, toiling now, hurting now, seeking now a solution or the dissolution of that evil one. Who made us the children of sinners and cannot be with God who is Holy. But don’t worry. There is an answer, there is a truth that you must know, you must trust and seek. The Son who made it all, the one who gave it all for you and me.  The one who defeated all and gave us freedom.  The One who with his body and blood made a human sinless bridge between we the sinners and He the Holy one.  Hallelujah! Hallelujah! Hallelujah! we are now free!

So, embrace, and trace the one who is all. Seek his face and His presence for freedom, broken chains, joy, love, healing, restoration and peace are ours.

Amen!

Blessings,

Alicia Yombalakian
Better Life Today

Men do have feelings too?

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Yes!  Men do have feelings too.

This is something I would like to address. Today’s society caters to women much more than they do to men, in most social issues and gender needs. There are all sorts of ministries, centers for abused women, businesses and entities that address women needs. That is absolutely needed and as a woman and a mother myself,  I am most grateful for it.

However, there isn’t much available for men. I have 4 sons and because of that my attention goes to men a lot. I think about their emotional needs, their inner growth, their futures and opportunities. I also think of healthy expectations of them. My children are all pretty grown up. Their ages range from 19 to 28 years old.

As a girl I grew up with a father who was angry, not communicative or expressive; and many times aggressive.  My mother was afraid of his reactions and there wasn’t much communication, except for fear (whether verbal communication or body language)  How do we manage so that dad will not find out or see what we did wrong, etc. Those would be the questions in our minds.  Therefore I did not learn how to relate to men very well.

I got married to a man who in terms of communication was pretty much like my dad. After we got divorced I was left with a pre-teen, a  4 and 6 year old boys.  I learned how to relate to men through raising them and communicating with them.  For the most part I have learned how men think and feel through my amazing boys. Years of dedication and communication with them, through everything they would go through. It is important to point out that we still learn about each other as our communication skills continue to grow and our relationships develop. There is always room for improvement.

This lead me to realized how much we expect from men and how little we support them.

We are no longer living in the era of “boys do not cry”, yet society still expect them not to show emotions and hold it. I say we pretty much behave toward them in the same fashion as we did 50 years ago.

Socially men are not supposed to cry.  If they are emotional they are looked at wrong. As if they are weak or less manly. If they make requests, we women in general tend to work hard at doing things the way we want to.  I am not talking about your or me.  I am not pointing fingers.  I am merely talking about what is happening today in general with a lot of people. As we women have gained terrain, sometimes we go to extremes were men are not valued properly.

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We need to take a moment to think about men.  

Men and women were designed differently for procreation and for different basic jobs. We were not designed to battle against each other or to mistreat each other, but to complement, love and protect each other.God make us different so that we could complement each other on the difficult tasks of life.

I believe men are being misunderstood, and as much as there are guys who do not get involved with their children after divorce ,and as much as there are guys who are violent.  The vast majority of men are loving, dedicated fathers and loving husbands. Moreover, most of those men who act wrong, would act better if they had someone who can understand their emotions and who could guide them to be their best. There should be as many support groups for men as there are for women. I want to see men having more growth and healing opportunities. We all human beings need it and deserve it, regardless of gender.

 

In honor of all the man in my life.
With much love,
Alicia Yombalakian

Thanks-giving

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Thanksgiving is such a used term, which for most is the one day in the year when families and friends get together to eat, share, giving thanks as part of the Thanksgiving meal tradition. If we look at the term Thanksgiving we will see that what this means is giving thanks.  To give thanks you need to experience gratefulness.

Gratefulness is a feeling that we can have in many different instances and for many reason. We can be grateful because we got a new job a business break a good report at the doctors.  We can be grateful because something that went wrong didn’t go as wrong as we expected. We can be grateful that we were forgiven or that we were given another opportunity to do something better.

However, we can also experience gratefulness as a state of mind and a way of life rather than a feeling that comes and goes with the situation or reason that gave us the feeling.

Feelings can change with the hormonal change in our bodies.  Eating chocolate, drinking coffee or alcohol for example can change how you feel and how your brain functions.  Yet, when you are in a specific state of mind it will not change as easy because your mind will take you back to that state of mind rather quickly.

The feelings that I just talked about are awesome.  It is great to feel them and I am grateful for each of them. Yet, I am calling you to seek the state of mind or way of life of thanksgiving, which in turn will allow you actual changes in brain activity. Thankful people are healthier and live longer according to many studies conducted in the matter. This way of life will allow you to change your perspectives from half glass empty to half glass full.  It is impossible to experience sincere gratefulness while being negative.

How is this possible? With the awareness that this is good for you; that you want to have it in your life and with the decision to pursue this new way of life.

How do I do this? By reminding yourself through the day that you are seeking this way of life. As circumstances or occurrences arise you make the conscious decision of choosing to be positive about it and be thankful for something positive or thankful that what went wrong didn’t get worse.  Just like with everything else this process will become second nature as you practice.

Something else that in my experience will help you tremendously is meditating in God’s Word.  That in itself with build you up and give you the wisdom to choose and the courage to not give up. Also directing your thanksgiving unto the one Who created and you and sustains your every breath.

Here are a few scriptures that talk about thanksgiving to aid you in this process.

Colossians 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.

Colossians 4:2 Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.

Hebrews 12:28 Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe.

Psalm 28:7 The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.

Psalm 75:1 We give thanks to you, O God, we give thanks, for your Name is near; men tell of your wonderful deeds.

 

With much love,

Alicia Al-Rabeah
Better Life Today

 

 

 

La mente y la boca

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Lo que sale de tu boca se hara una realidad en tu vida. Cuidado con lo que decis porque se va a hacer realidad.  No llames al mal que viene. Estos son algunos dichos que nos decimos unos a los otros.

No te digo esto por supersticion.  Personalmente, no creo en las supersticiones., pero, cre que en muchisimas instancias estos dichos tiene sentido comun.  Creo en cosas que no se ven como Dios, pero para entender la mayoria de los mecanismos existentes en nuestra mente me gusta buscar el sentido comun.

Sin embargo hay una conexion muy estrecha entre el cerebro y la boca.  La Biblia dice en Lucas 6:45  “El hombre bueno, del buen tesoro de su corazón saca el bien; y el hombre malo, del mal tesoro de su corazón saca el mal; porque de la abundancia del corazón habla la boca”.

La gente que cree en el new age o “la nueva era” creen en el Karma y de la misma manera creen que lo que emanas por medio de tu intencion y por medio de tu expresion fisica sea en lo que dices lo que piensas, lo que meditas vuelve en algun momento de tu vida hacia ti.

Hay muchas religiones y creencas que creen que tu te creas tu propio destino de acuerdo a lo que confiesas con tu boca. Sea como sea o creas como creas la realidad es que lo que decis te afecta a ti y afecta a todas las personas a tu alrededor.

Que tema tan interesante! Me facina el hecho que hay una gran ciencia sobre el trabajo y la correlacion de la expresion linguistica, corporal y el cerebro.

Podemos cambiar una inmensa porcion de nuestras vidas internas, externas y de nuetras relaciones interpersonales cuando tenemos un claro entendimiento de como lo que digo, lo que pienso y en lo que medito me afecta a mi y las personas a nuestro alrededor.

Para manejar un automovil, hay que ponderle gasolina y esa gasolina tiene que ser la adecuada.  Que pasa si le pones diesel a un coche que lleva gasolina regular? Va a funcionar mal hasta que se rompa.

Si traducimos este ejemplo at ser humano. Hay que pensar que para vivir, crecer, y desarollarse en la vida todos necesitamos un dialogo interior exterior y comunicacion con los demas.  Al igual que el automovil, hay un tipo de comunicacion saludable y adecuada para vivir bien y otra que hace que tus mecanismos interiores y exteriores fallen.

Te podes preguntar: Como sabes que lo que sale de la boca afecta al cerebro?  Muy bien mi sentido comun me dice que aprendemos inicialmente de lo que escuchamos a los demas decir.

Asi aprendemos todos los lenguajes que existen el corporal, como se mueve tu cuerpo y o expresion facial para demostrar un sentimiento o proyectar una necesidad, el cerebral, de acuerdo a lo que escuchaste ser dicho de ti y de acuerdo a lo que viste ser demostrado hacia ti por medio del lenguaje corporal de tu familia y o amigo a temprana edad desarollaste to forma de verte a ti mismo/a lo cual ha tenido una gran parte en tu auto estima.

Por consiguiente, tu aprendes, disciernes, analizas y tomas decisiones de acuerdo a lo que sale de tu boca. Tu pienzas de acuerdo a lo que ya conoces y a la informacion recibida, pero gran parte de esa informacion recibida esta en lo que dices.

Por esa razon en cada una de nuestros encuentros te voy  demostrar maneras en las cuales puedas hablarte a ti mismo/a de una manera sana.

Otra referencia que deseo hacer de la Biblia hoy para reforsar el entendimiento que estoy tratando de establecer es: Romanos 10:17Nueva Versión Internacional (NVI)

17 Así que la fe viene como resultado de oír el mensaje, y el mensaje que se oye es la palabra de Cristo.

O sea que la fe o lo que tu crees viene como resultado de oir el mensaje.  Cuando tu hablas en alto o piensas te estas dando un mensaje que tu cerebro esta escuchando.

Ahora que ya sabemos como trabaja nuestro cerebro en relacion a nuestro lenguaje es muy importante aprender a tener conciencia de como nos hablamos a nosotros mismos y de como les hablamos a los demas.

Los demas pueden ser tus padres, esposo/a, tu hijo/a, tu amigo/a, o un desconocido.  Claro que con cada una de estas personas tenes una relacion diferente y seguramente te  comunicas de maneras diferentes con ellos.Con cada una de estas relaciones tenes un tipo diferente de confianza y alianza. De todas maneras necesitas tomar la iniciativa de considerar tu charla interior y como te comunicas con cualquiera de estos grupos ya que no importa con quien hables vas a tener un impacto en ellos.

Cuales son los componenentes mas importantes para que tengas una charla interior y por consiguiente exterior sana? Es vivir cada dia y pensar cada pensamiento con amor, con paz, con esperanza y con la mejor intension que podes.

 

Con gran cariño,
Alicia Yombalakian

Tienes preguntas? Hacia Quien vas? Hacia donde vas?

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Mi querido ser humano. Tengo una pregunta para ti. ¿A quién vas a en tu momento de necesidad? ¿Hacia Quien vas? ¿Hacia donde vas? ¿Buscas a la gente para ayudarte y entenderte? Yo tambien lo hago, pero para mí eso no es suficiente. También busco a quien me proporciona con cada respiración que tomo.

El problema es que asi como he estado leyendo la Biblia durante muchos años he tenido preguntas que no están siendo contestadas. Algunas que nunca se responderan, no en este mundo y  en esta vida. Son misterios. No importa a qué o a quién sigues, nada es 100% probado como la verdad absoluta. Solamente puedes basarte en tu experiencia y, hacer la decisión de profesar tu verdad. Tus experiencias y conocimientos hacen que tu creas.

Sin embargo, tengo que tomar una decisión de cómo voy a vivir mi vida. ¿Qué pautas voy a seguir? ¿Hacia Quién voy a ir? ¿Dónde voy a correr en mi necesidad?

Después de mucho dolor interno y, a veces de tristeza en mi busqueda vuelvo a la misma conclusión. Yo preferiría estar siguiendo a Jesucristo con quien he experimentado una relación personal (en términos de experiencias personales) y al final saber que estaba equivocada, que renunciar a El (a causa de esas preguntas sin respuesta), ir nuevamente en busca de otra cosa que me llenen y al final darme cuenta que El si era real y yo estaba equivocada.

El hecho es que tenemos que elegir, mientras que estamos vivos. No estoy hablando sólo de donde pasarás la eternidad, pero ahora. Ahora que estás vivo/a, tienes que elegir cómo quieres dirigir tu vida, donde la llevaras. Recuerda que mañana vas a vivir las consecuencias de las decisiones tomdas hoy.

En mi opinión, somos como un tren que va a terminar su ruta en este mundo algún día, sin embargo, mientras que estás montando él, tu lo conduces y lo diriges. Los animo a tomar decisiones racionales, conscientes acerca de sus vidas. No dejes que preguntas sin respuesta rompan tu fe o te rompan a ti.

Es una realidad que debemos confrontar. Hay misterios que nos rodean. Hay muchas versiones de la verdad, muchas perspectivas y muchos puntos de vista. Puedes pasar tu vida buscando y nunca elegir. Si has experimentado una relación personal con Dios, seguilo y se paciente. Asi como buscas vas a encontrar y asi como golpeas la puerta, se abrirá.  Tal vez no serán respondidas todas tus preguntas, pero te puedo asegurar que las revelaciones se te darán, tu comprensión y sabiduría crecerán y tus horizontes se expandirán.

 

Con gran cariño,
Alicia Yombalakian