While in session with my amazing Life Coach, she asked me “what for” did I do what I do? She also asked me “what for” I didn’t do what I wanted or needed to do.
Yes! What for do I open the curtains of my room in the morning, “what for” I watch a show, “What for” everything. She asked me to write “what for” I do everything that I do on a daily basis. What for? In order to find out where my time goes and the reasons I have assigned these times to those activities. As well, this question can help me see where my mind is at. What I am thinking about.
As a Life Coach myself, I the same questions, but in a different way. I would say. Please write everything you do in a day or week and let’s analyze your activities to structure a goal minded schedule. Let’s find out why you do something in order to find out if that is what you really want to do or how beneficial it is in order to achieve your goals.
However, the question of “what for” enables me to find out the purpose for which I do something or I don’t. I tend to find explanations of why I do or don’t do something.
I have realized that finding explanations that start with the word “because” are answering the question “why”. In many instances, we need to find out why in order to find the root cause of something. Yet, finding out “what for” entails responsibility and builds mindfulness.
Now, whenever I am about to do or not do something I ask myself “what for” I should or not do that activity. This makes me think before I act and it helps me to not refrain from doing what I need or desire to do. It allows me to make more conscious choices with my time and with the path that I am taking to achieve my goals. Whether the goals are emotional growth or financial ones.
I invite you to ask yourself “what for” you are doing something. The answer might surprise you. You might catch yourself doing things for the wrong reason. You might find that you do things for others more than for you, even when is not needed. You might also find encouragement to pursue something you are not facing in your life right now.
Why should you try to ask less “why” and more what for?
Because you deserve your very best. Why might make your pain or heartache feel validated and that is ok. However, after asking “why” whether you find an answer or not, asking “what for” might help you gain ground and momentum to structure your actions toward achieving goals and growing.